高中英语外研版 (2019)必修 第三册Unit 1 Knowing me, Knowing you导学案

这是一份高中英语外研版 (2019)必修 第三册Unit 1 Knowing me, Knowing you导学案，共8页。
Hw t build a gd interpersnal relatinship with thers？
导读：不论是否愿意，每个人都需要与他人接触，这就需要具备一定的人际交往能力。良好的人际交往能力是青少年社会化的起点，是将来在社会立足的生存需要。想要提高人际交往能力，就一起来看看文中所提到的技巧吧！
Here are several techniques yu can use t imprve yur interpersnal relatins with friends，family cwrkers，and emplyees. In fact，yu can use these techniques t influence thers t have a psitive attitude tward yu in just abut any type f relatinship.
1.Dn’t criticise, cndemn，r cmplain abut peple.
There’s n faster way create resentment tward yu than t criticise r cmplain abut a persn. Instead f telling peple they’re ding smething wrng，cnsider asking them questins t try t find ut why they d what they d. Offer them an alternative in a way that cmes acrss as trying t help. Shw them hw ding things the way yu wuld like them dne can benefit them r lead t reward.
2.Appreciate peple.
If yu’re nrmal，yu’re prbably very quick t ntice things yu dn’t like abut peple. Maybe yu smetimes even let peple knw when yu dn’t like smething. I’ll let yu n a secret that can vastly imprve yur interpersnal relatins very quickly: whenever yu see smene，imagine them wearing a flashing sign n their chest that says APPRECIATE ME，PLEASE！Then，give them what they want. If yu start appreciating the gd things thers are ding，they are much mre likely t give yu mre gd things t appreciate. Just make sure yur appreciatin is genuine. Peple will pick up n it if yu’re just feeding them a line，in which case yu’re better ff having said nthing at all. Yu might have heard this saying when yu were grwing up: “If yu can’t say smething nice dn t say anything at all. ”Wise advice!
3.Slve yur wn prblems by slving ther peple’s prblems.
This relates t number ne. If yu wuld like smene t d smething r act in a certain way, try t ligure ut hw what yu want might benefit him r her. This wrks especially well fr peple wh wrk in sales. Instead f telling yur ptential clients hw great yur prduct is, ask them questins t find ut what prblems they might have Once yu knw thse issues, yu can then wrk with yur clients t help slve them. If they dn’t have a prblem yur prduct r service slves, then yu knw that yu’ re nt a gd match. It saves a lt f time n chasing clients that were never really ptential sales anyway.
As a side nte, I’ve wrked in sales and fund this apprach amazing. It really takes the pressure ff bth yu and the client and it helps fster interpersnal relatins built n trust. If yu wrk in sales r deal with custmers in any way, yu might really enjy this hnest and pen apprach t selling. Yu can get mre inf here. I’ ve wrked thrugh the material myself and it really made the whle sales prcess feel much mre enjyable and effective fr bth my clients and me.
4.Be genuinely interested in thers.
Yu’ll make mre friends by being interested in thers than yu ever will by trying t get peple t be interested in yu. This was tuched n earlier, but it’s wrth repeating here. Nt everyne will admit it, but the truth is, mst peple’s favurite subject is themselves. Use this t yur advantage. Becme genuinely interested in ther peple. Ask them questins. Talk t them abut things they’re interested in. Put the fcus n them. Yu’ll quickly gain their friendship.
5.Smile Smiles are infectius.
They make thers feel warm inside and warmer tward yu. Frce yurself t d it if yu have t because it will ultimately make yu feel better t. Try it right nw: just smile!
6.Be a gd listener.
This ges back t the principle f fcusing n the ther persn. Listen mre than yu speak and encurage thers t talk abut themselves and yu’ll quickly develp gd interpersnal relatins with them.
7.Make thers feel imprtant.
If smene is imprtant t yu in any way, tell them s! This ges fr any type f interpersnal relatinship including yur spuse, kids, emplyees, cwrkers, yur friends, family-anyne! Peple like t feel imprtant. Give them what they want and they will lve yu fr it. Again, it’s imprtant that yu d this with sincerity. Peple can easily tell when yu’ re just dishing smething ut fr persnal gain. Mean it when yu say it.
8.Avid arguing, and understand that yu really aren’t always right.
When tw peple argue, neither ne is really listening t the ther. Yu’ll be better ff t try and remain calm and listen t the ther persn’s thughts. Then take sme time t cnsider them. Maybe yu’ re nt right! And if yu are right, telling smene else will nly make them resentful. Be tactful in yur apprach and cnsider the ther persn’s feelings. Try asking yurself hw yu wuld feel in their situatin.
9.If yu’ re wrng, admit it.
Yu can really harm yur interpersnal relatins if yu refuse t admit when yu’ re wrng. It’s frustrating fr thers and it damages their trust in yu. If yu’ re wrng de a mistake, admit it. This will quickly clear the air and allw everyne t mve n.
10.Save yur anger.
If yu apprach smene in anger, their defenses immediately g up and yur discussin will g nwhere. If yu have a prblem with smene that needs t be srted ut, apprach that persn calmly. Ask them if yu can sit dwn with them t wrk n an amicable slutin fr bth f yu. Everyne thinks mre clearly when they’re calm.
11.Suggest, dn t tell.
Interpersnal relatins are strained when yu tell smene hw t d smething r hw t think，Peple like t cme up with their wn beliefs r pinins f hw t d things. Instead，try ffering suggestins. Suggestins leave peple mre pen t cnsidering yur idea rather than stubbrnly defending their psitin.
Try using ne new technique each week and see hw differently peple start respnding t yu.
注解：
l.cndemn vt.谴责，指责
2.resentment n.愤恨，怨恨
3.genuine adj.真诚的
4.ultimately adv.最后，基本上
5.spuse n.配偶
6.dish…ut v.分发，指责，给予批评、惩罚等
7.resentful adj.气愤的，愤慨的，令人憎恶的
8.tactful adj.机智的，圆滑的，老练的
9.srt ut 解决（问题）
10.amicable adj.友好的，友善的
11.strained adj.紧张的
II
Making small talk
导读：在日常生活中，与人闲聊是必不可少的交际方式之一。那怎么样闲聊，闲聊的话题是什么，仿佛是很多人感到棘手的问题。本文就闲聊这个话题给了一些建议，我们一起看看吧！
The ability t make small talk is highly valued. In fact, many English students are mre interested in making effective small talk than knwing crrect grammar structures. Small talk gets friendships started and breaks the ice befre imprtant business meetings and ther events.
1.Why is small talk difficult fr sme English learners?
First f all, making small talk is nt nly difficult fr English learners, but als fr many native speakers f English. Hwever, small talk can be especially difficult fr sme learners because making small talk means talking abut almst anything-and that means having a wide vcabulary that can cver mst tpics.
2.Hw t imprve small talk skills?
Nw that we understand the prblem, the next step is t imprve the situatin. Here are sme tips t imprve small talk skills. Of curse, making effective small talk means lts f practice, but keeping these tips in mind shuld imprve verall cnversatinal skills.
·D sme research
Spend time n the Internet, reading magazines, r watching Tv specials abut the type f peple yu are ging t meet. Fr example: If yu are taking a class with students frm ther cuntries, take time after the first few days f class t d sme research. They will appreciate yur interest and yur cnversatins will be much mre interesting.
·Use the Internet t gain specific vcabulary
This is related t ding research abut ther peple. If yu have a business meeting, r are meeting peple wh share a cmmn interest (a basketball team, a tur grup interested in art, etc.), take advantage f the Internet t learn specific vcabulary. Almst all businesses and interest grups have glssaries n the Internet explaining the mst imprtant jargn related t their business r activity.
·Find cmmn interests
Once yu have a subject that interests bth f yu keep t it！Yu can d this in a number f ways talking abut travel，talking abut the schl r friend yu have in cmmn，talking abut the differences between yur culture and the new culture.
注解：
l.cnversatinal adj.（谈话的风格、用语等）非正式的，口语的；谈话的，会话的
2.glssary n.术语（特殊用语）表，词汇表，专业词典
3.jargn n.行话，术语
Ⅲ
White lies
导读：善意的谎言是指不想让他人受到伤害，鼓励别人或是让他人心情愉悦而说出的谎言。
The mst ppular xymrn is the term “white lie”. A white lie is a lie that is inncent and is used t help, nt harm smene. Smetimes white lies help cnceal the truth, which may be painful fr the ther persn t hear.
The ccasins that I think are allwable nt t tell the truth almst all cncern saving smene’s feeling. We have all experienced situatins when t be ttally frank and truthful wuld be t hurt smene, smetimes very badly. In such situatins, I feel that it is all right t tell a white lie.
The thing abut white lies is that they are really useful. They build cnfidence, and smetimes, they even help encurage peple t d better.
Fr example, yu may happen t be at a large party where a friend’s byfriend is ne f the guests. Yur friend is nt present because she is away at a cnference. Yu cannt help nticing that yur friend’s byfriend is with a very attractive yung wman t whm he is behaving rather amrusly, and he has nt nticed yu.
Unfrtunately, yur friend asks yu if yu saw her byfriend at the party and if he was with anyne. D yu tell yur friend the truth? It may well be better nt t d s.
Fr all yu knw, there may be an inncent explanatin fr the byfriend’s behaviur, but if yu tell yur friend what yu have seen, it may damage the relatinship between her and her byfriend and als between yu and her. It may seem very dislyal t yur friend, but it might well be best in these circumstances t say that there were a lt f peple at the party and yu did nt ntice her byfriend. If he is being unfaithful t her in such a blatant way, then she is ging t find ut in the very near future anyway.
Sme ther examples are: a fifth grader may return hme with an average grade, such as a B. After a parent tells a white lie, by saying that they were really prud f him, he wuld try t aim fr a better grade t impress his parents even mre. And maybe next time, he might even get an A.
A cancer patient might have given up hpe, but if the dctr tells her that she is ging t be kay, she might build cnfidence and have a strnger will t live. One white lie might even save a life.
Smetimes white lies are even used in miniscule situatins. If a friend wanted an pinin n her hair that day, yu culd lie and say it lks fine, even if it actually lks awful.
White lies are really harmless. Everyne lies abut things，even adults lie. When they’re talking t their friends r cwrkers, they can brag abut their new car r hw smart their child is when it’s actually nt even true.
On Mther’s Day，yu might give yur mm all these white lies t make her happy. Yu can tell her hw gd she lks in her sweatpants even when they’re really baggy.
Strng peple dn’t need white lies，because nly strng peple can handle the truth. Ask yurself this, wuld yu rather hear a randm lie? Or the hard truth?
注解：
1.xymrn n.矛盾修辞法
2.cnceal v.隐藏，隐瞒
3.amrusly adv.多情地
4.inncent adj.无辜的，清白的
5.blatant adj.喧嚣的，公然的，炫耀的
6.miniscule adj.极小的，微乎其微的
7.brag v.吹嘘，自吹自擂
8.baggy adj.宽松的，肥大的，宽松而下垂的